What is the ninth step?

“Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.” prudence—these are the qualities we shall need when we take Step Nine.

How do you write the 9th Step amends?

Making Your 9th Step Amends

1. List out all the wrongs you did (example: I lied to you, I cheated on you, I stole your TV, I stole $500 from you, I did drugs in your house).
2. Say, “It was wrong of me to do those things.”
3. Ask, “Is there anything I can do to begin to make this right?”

What does Step 9 mean in AA?

about making amends
The 9th step in AA is about making amends. You must do so regardless of the consequences. Amends could end a relationship. You could go to jail, face a significant fine, or suffer other serious consequences.

How long should it take to go through the 12 steps?

Most sponsors encourage the AA newcomer to attend 90 meetings in 90 days. That may seem like a lot and it may seem like a long time to commit to going to meetings. However, most 12-step programs, including those for people addicted to drugs, encourage new members to commit to those 90 meetings in 90 days.

What to say when making amends?

Acknowledge what you have done and how you have hurt the person. Don’t just apologize— saying “I’m sorry” is not enough. The situation will only improve if you are sincere in your efforts. Ask the person what you can do to remedy the situation and what would need to happen for them to feel better.

How do you make up for hurting someone?

How to Apologize When You’ve Hurt Someone

1. Listen closely before rushing to apologize.
2. Prepare your apology in advance when possible.
3. Be specific and detailed in your apology.
4. Try not to turn your apology into a debate.
5. Remember that actions speak louder than (apologetic) words.
6. Be patient after you apologize.

What do you do when you wronged someone?

How to Actually Forgive Yourself

1. Remember that it’s okay to feel guilty.
2. But, understand the difference between guilt and shame.
3. Admit you messed up.
4. Apologize to anyone you may have hurt.
5. Write yourself an apology.
6. Take care of yourself, mentally and physically.
7. Be patient.
8. Don’t try to change other people.